I love my Black men but there are times I wonder is it really harder to find a “good” black man? And what makes a man outside my race better? Forget the fact that I am not interested (love a black man’s swagger), a recent study noted that over 50% of black women will never get married—holy S#!%–and because of these staggering stats many of my sistahs are starting to look outside their race or even class to find a man. Does this equate to settling for a relationship because of fear and loneliness? Or is it just changing of the tides—adapting to life’s realities.
Many black men already date outside their race, whether with Asian, white or Latina women, but why is there still a stigma against black women who do the same? Personally, I know for me it’s a matter of attraction plus I cannot deal with the scrutiny of an interracial relationship, the differences that arise due to my skin color versus his, or the idea of raising a bi-racial child to deal with the prejudices of society. It is said that as a black woman becomes more successful in her career, it is harder to find a match among her male counterparts. How many believe this to be true?
I don’t have an affinity towards interracial dating, to each their own but for me it’s not an option. I love the walk, talk and appeal of a black man, not that a few sensual Italians haven’t turned my head (I think it’s the accent and the kissing of both cheeks), but I never think of it as a potential affair. I have not opened my mind to “the other side” so to speak.
In an effort not to simplify the choices of others, I must pose the question, is the growing rate of interracial relationships formed based on attraction, love and affection or is it based on desperation and tolerance? How many of you are in interracial relationships? What are some of the challenges? How many would have chosen the same person or stayed within your race? Are you raising bi-racial children? If so, what do you teach them about both sides?