“There’s a fine line between erotic and crass and not a lot of people can walk that line well.”—Sabrina, poet & CEO of Burrows Ink
Today’s post is not your typical entertainment review—but then again, NUBIA is anything but ordinary. As you know, last Thursday was the Freak Nasty poetry event at Le Poisson Rogue, and I must say it was definitely NASTY! The evening was filled with amazing performances and the host JP Justice was hilarious in his rendition of making it pop (if you get my drift). The dimmed lights, naughty acts, sensual dance moves, provocative teddies and smoky scenes and performers like Miriam, Shareef, Sabrina and Rainmaker pushed the line of erotica to 100 degrees Fahrenheit. They ignited our senses, inflamed our lust and showered the audience with orgasmic sensations. These fantastic artists showed their diversity and style through mosaic words and twists of verbal skill that would impress any English teacher. What talent! The evening was meant to tantalize and hypnotize—and I must say they succeeded. So, stay tuned for the next show date–it’s a must-feel.
I am a lover of the zodiac, and anyone who spends ten minutes with me recognizes my fascination with the planets. I tend to begin a conversation with “What’s your sign?” I am aware of the familiar personality traits associated with each creature of the zodiac and sometimes find myself adjusting to their impending characteristics. Do I live my life by the zodiac? No, but I find a lot of disguised wisdom in astrology. Maybe it’s because I’m a Sag, the philosopher of the signs, a nomad of sorts who continuously seeks new adventures and detest the idea of loosing their freedom (so true). Knowing how zodiac signs interact can help you understand why you do or don’t click with your new-found love interest.
It’s Thursday and I have a freaky surprise for all of you! NUBIA is giving three lucky readers the chance to win 2 FREE tickets each for a night of erotica with highly-acclaimed poet Ainsley Burrows. He will feature his adult only, extremely sensual poetry night on Thursday, July 30th at the sultry Le Poisson Rouge (158 Bleecker Street, NY NY). With performances like Climax and I Want to Have a Baby, witness the orgasmic acts from artists who give it to you raw.
Take your man/woman or make it a girl’s night out on the town. Contest begins today and ends on Wednesday, July 29, so if you’re interested leave a comment and you will automatically enter for a chance to win. Like always, winners will be selected by random number selection.
Check out Aisnley as he performs his hit poem Climax and get a preview of what’s to come.
Every once in a while, Eat-Out Wednesday takes a review twist. As a food-lover, I dine at various places, some good, some bad and others simply alright. So far, I haven’t written an in between review–until today.
A few weeks ago was Nicky’s birthday but since I was sipping some serious Hurricanes in New Orleans, I wasn’t able to celebrate at the All-White party at Providence or the July 4th weekend festivities. So I decided to treat her to dinner for the big day. Instead of going to good ole reliable locales we ventured downtown Brooklyn for a little something new. Having eaten at this French bistro called Chez Oskar a few years back, Nic suggested we dine there instead of risking it at the all soy, vegan spot Red Bamboo across the street.
What can I say about Chez Oskar? It’s a classic French eatery located in the diverse Fort Greene neighborhood. Oskar offers a relaxing and warm atmosphere, outdoor seating and friendly staff, but character is not enough to keep me coming back. Although a part of French culture, the portions were too small with the drinks about the only option that did not leave me desiring a little extra for my famished palate. When the hors devours arrived the three Shrimp kebab on top of a huge bed of lettuce and one Crab Cake were tasty but forgettable. At $10+ each not only was it expensive for someone on a budget but it did not excite my taste buds for what’s next.
A QUICK FIX FOR THOSE DAYS WHEN YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE A TRIP TO THE SALON
I can’t tell you how many hours of my life I’ve wasted waiting in the salon and then going through the lengthy process of washing, dyeing, drying and styling. Eventually, that all came to an end when I started my PR career and was forced to get rid of my stylist for her tardiness as well as an F’ed up haircut.
It was a 3 hour wait to get my hair done for a Thanksgiving weekend party and by the time I finally got in the chair, girlfriend was already rushing to close up shop so I kept it simple with the usual loose curls and a trim. After she clipped my ends, I noticed that she started doing tighter curls and explained that it would last longer and fall nicely for my party the next day. I entrusted her with caring for my hair for over 10 years, so I didn’t question this sudden course of action and knew that I would look fly either way.
Twenty four hours later, I was on my way to Club Lotus with beautiful, bouncy curls and absolutely no frizz, even though it was muggy and raining in November! The next day it still looked amazing; just more natural and free. No matter how long I had to wait in that shop it was always well worth it I thought. But, on that third day, all hell broke loose when I realized that the back left side of my hair was 4 inches shorter than the right side!! WTF? I was mad, but I used her services for over a decade with not even one hair disaster. All I wanted was for her to admit that she made a mistake and fix it…cut it in shape, weave it, do something. I called first but girlfriend just brushed me off like this ish was a figment of my imagination, so I went to the shop to make my case — no apology, no acceptance of any wrong doing, no acknowledgement that the customer is always right, no attempt to make good with a loyal customer. Once I came to grips with the fact that she knew nothing about good customer service and had been running the place like some back of the house, make-shift kitchen beauty parlor, I just told her a few Jamaican “choice words” and decided on spending my money elsewhere.
It took me a long time to find another stylist though. Weaves became an option for a while, but I grew tired it and knew sooner or later that the braiding and sewing would damage my tresses. I loved a simple sleek ponytail during the work week and flowing coils for dressy occasions, so this situation led me to an exciting discovery — wigs! They’re not just for Halloween ladies and definitely not the kind your Granny wore back in the day. Today’s wigs range from human hair to synthetic, full caps to half caps and come straight, curly, wavy or kinky in all colors. The new lace front or full lace technique makes wigs look so natural that someone can run their hands across your hair and not be able to tell the difference. How do you think Tyra Banks and Beyonce change shades and textures so frequently without going bald?!
FREE EVENTS IN NYC
Summer in the “city that is never sleeps” is always a lively, electrifying season with so much to do that it can be overwhelming for both tourists with flashing cameras and self-proclaimed New Yorkers. Personally speaking, I am tired of missing some of the amazing events taking place around our fair city. Whether it’s hip-hop or jazz, Shakespeare in the park, movies on the Hudson, concerts at Summer Stage or at Wingate Field, many are free to the public. From Harlem to BK, here are a few suggestions to help you enjoy the rest of summer with friends, your boo or the family:
Do you have any suggestions that aren’t listed? Had a terrific time at any of these weekly events? Share your thoughts and give us all something to get out of bed for.
Brooklyn– Concerts, Films and Theatre
Sofrito moves to the beat of its own drum. Named after the aromatic herb used to spice up every Puerto Rican dish, this charming East Side establishment with its lure of innovative food and energetic vibe gives an immediate expectation of good food and a good time—and trust me it doesn’t disappoint.
Chefs Ricardo Cardona and Andres Ortega imaginative menu draws inspiration from the fresh ingredients used in this Latin-Caribbean culture. They transform the essence of seasonings into a mouth-watering delight that includes a bold twist on the traditional surf and turf dish with succulent Lobster Tail and sweet Oxtail. The ample Shrimp in white wine and garlic sauce and Chuletas (pork chops) are all flavorful renditions of this classic island cuisine. The appetizers such as baked clams with cilantro and bacon or Sofrito house salad with chick peas and avocado tantalize the taste buds before the main course. Savor in the delectable desserts that make for a happy fairytale ending. My suggestion is the chocolate suflate or Benny Blanco Cheese Flan. Each dish expertly intertwines fresh ingredients into elegant and gratifying combination.
After I got bored playing cops and robbers and realized that the boys only played with me ‘cause I was cute, I embraced my femininity and became a true fashionista. It was back then that I realized there was no ‘go to place’ for a multifaceted black girl like me. So, I drew my inspiration from a mix of Vogue and Word Up, and the hair made just as much of a statement as the clothes.
I wore the ripped acid washed jeans with Bart Simpson tees and feathered Farah Fawcett layers. But, sometimes I would combine a Cindy Crawford look with a Salt n’ Pepa hairdo — like that day in 10th grade when I wore my black double-breasted Giorgio Marciano pants suit with the peace sign chain and fresh finger waves.
Even though getting my Tina Turner like hair tamed was a long (sometimes painful) process, I grew to appreciate the versatility that came with having black hair. These tresses have been through bangs with the tapered sides, highlights, goddess braids, corn rows, flat twists, crimps, micro braids, straw twists, pin curls and so much more. We’ve seen some styles come and go and come right back again. I’ve gotten a little conservative with the hair and my “been there done that” attitude makes me less inclined to try some of the trends that have resurfaced today, but I have to give props to celebs like Rhianna and Ciara for their fab renditions of hair styles from the past.
Take a look at some of the Dos that have made it back on the scene. What’s your favorite hairstyle from the 80s or 90s?
A few weeks ago I wrote an article about the top ten things every woman should know about a man from the male perspective. Since I believe turnabout is fair play, I decided to let the women share their pet peeves/turnoffs when it comes to men. So fellows here we go and take heed if you want that second date.
“My biggest turn-off is when a guy invites you to his house on the first date…ughhh.”–Dyann, Brooklyn, NY
“Men that believe women are so equal and that chivalry is dead, buried, gone.” — Ereca, Chicago
“I hate a man that’s a show-off or really gaudy, that’s the worst.” –Rasheka, Virginia Beach, VA
Take a trip on the 4, 5 or 6 train for a piece of Italy in your own backyard. The term Ciao Bella, defined as “hello beautiful”, is certainly evoked seconds after stepping into the dining room of this Upper East Side locale. Its dazzling red hues, crystal chandeliers, and modern art décor by Warhol and Keith Herring adorns both floors of this chic restaurant and lounge. The airy atmosphere, large windows, sidewalk seating and posh balcony makes this newcomer a sophisticated dining experience with a neighborhood-friendly atmosphere.
To set the mood, you’ll certainly want to start with one of the distinctive and tantalizing mixed drinks or wines from their vast bar selection. Fortunately, the wine list boasts white, red, and sparkling wines by the glass or bottle. Whether dressed up for a night on the town with friends, seeking an afterwork indulgence or simply want to impress your date, this low key restaurant serves up ample portions from appetizers to entrees but with no pre-fixed menu prices can range from moderate to expensive.