Going gray early might be heredity, but I sure know I’ve earned a few extra silver strands since transitioning to motherhood. Taking care of two little human beings is a high pressure role. It can also feel like walking a tightrope with blindfolds and bed of nails beneath your feet when you’re co-parenting with a narcissistic moron. Does it sound like I’m speaking from personal experience?
Too many incidents have pushed me into mama bear mode, or what the aloof parent likes to call crazy. Now, let’s be clear. I’m not talking about those laughable moments when Dad serves cold pizza as a healthy breakfast or forgets to dress the kids in matching socks. I’m referring to everyday neglectful shit that can ultimately put your child at risk. Yesterday, for example, I felt my blood pressure rise and a painful knot at the back of neck as my toddler and 6 year old were set free and told to run across a busy parking lot. Twenty-five hours of labor combined and 6 years flashed before my eyes.
To be fair, there is no manual to being the perfect parent. However, after a few years in and repeatedly trying to offer guidance you begin to realize that the other parent is 1) stupid AF or 2) doesn’t recognize the potential harm because, as T.S. Elliott puts it, “they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves”
As a mom, you begin to lose patience and you could care less about the rhyme or reason behind irresponsible or neglectful parenting. When your only concern is to raise your babies in a safe and healthy environment, how can you cope with or get through to a narcissistic co-parent?
It’s still grilling season and with Labor Day right around the corner, I’ve found a delicious meatless recipe everyone will love! If you’re having a hard time giving up meat, portobello mushrooms are the perfect substitute for all you steak and beef lovers. It has a firm, meaty texture and delicate flavor that’s great for roasting, grilling and even burgers!
I love a good mushroom dish and think you’ll find this recipe quick and easy to prepare. As always, let me know if you decide to put a twist on any of these recipes. Share your pics with us by using the hashtag #MeatlessWithNUBIA
I recently had a delicious couscous salad and just had to search for similar recipes. Couscous, pronounced ko͞os ko͞os, is coarsely ground pasta made from semolina — a type of wheat. It’s a staple dish of the Maghreb in North Africa and is typically served with meat, veggies or fruit.
I chose this recipe from The Food Network because I love tomatoes, and the refreshing taste of mint adds a unique twist. So, if you’re looking for something to excite your tastebuds, this recipe is for you! I challenge you to add your own unique flavor and try this dish for a Meatless Monday lunch or dinner. Tweet us your pics by using the hashtag #MeatlessWithNUBIA.
Every mom will agree that pregnancy is one of the most amazing experiences in a woman’s life. But, it never really feels that way when you’re living in the moment! To be honest, there’s nothing blissful about raging hormones, morning sickness and weight gain in all the wrong places.
Don’t get me wrong. At some point, you find a nice balance somewhere between overabundant love for your little one and all those darn side effects. However, pregnancy can be so overwhelming that some expecting mommies forget to take care of themselves in the process.
One of the biggest signs of neglect is everyday attire. Being pregnant doesn’t mean you can’t look fashionable or have to buy everything three sizes bigger. In fact, many popular designers now have maternity lines and offer more form-fitting clothing to show off your baby bump.
If you’re a mommy-to-be and still trying to figure out your maternity wardrobe, there are a few basic rules to help you look and feel your best. We’ve put together some tips on looks you should avoid while pregnant. Take it all as a bad example and learn from it!
Summer is in full swing, and I hope you’re taking advantage of this beautiful weather with some outdoor dining or grilling. I found this amazing veggie burger recipe on Food and Wine. It’s perfect for Meatless Mondays, and you don’t even need to use a grill.
Last weekend, I made these veggie burgers and decided to dust off my grill and add some grilled corn and veggies to the mix! I also added a bit of jerk seasoning to give it a spicy kick!
When I became a parent I didn’t get a manual with the hospital release forms. I got diapers, a diaper bag and some Similac when I was leaving the hospital. To say I was terrified is putting it mildly. Fast track to now almost nine years, and I will tell you that I am still going through training and “finding myself” as a parent. I get when other parents say it’s THE hardest job, but it’s also the most fulfilling role you will ever have in life. So, how do you know if you are doing a good job? After all, there is no quarterly review on your performance. Here are my five top signs that I use to evaluate myself on a weekly, monthly, quarterly…well every time.
This is my number 1 sign of bad parenting — not taking care of your child’s basic needs, which ranges from your child’s appearance, preparing well balanced meals to simply spending quality time with your child. I have had experiences where one mother told me she has “no time” for play dates, birthday parties or playing with her child in general!
It’s grilling season, and we have some delicious Meatless Monday recipes lined up! If you have been following our Meatless Monday challenge on NUBIAMAG, you will all know of my love for tofu and anything spicy!
This recipe combines the sweet and tangy flavor of mango and pineapple with spicy jerk seasoning. It is the perfect coupling of two of my fave ingredients, and a quick and easy option for some weeknight grilling.
Have you tried any meatless grilling recipes? Tweet us your favorite recipes by using the hashtag #MeatlesswithNUBIA.
Got in-law problems? Who hasn’t?! In-law tension and conflict is an age old battle that will forge on in families for generations. The dynamics of merging two families together has always been a tricky and touch and go situation. Personally my in-law problems have been a roller coaster ride that I wouldn’t join the line at six flags to ride again! Or would I? This is coming from someone who has never been on a roller coaster! My relationship with my mother-in-law had me reflecting on what type of mother-in-law will I be to my future daughter-in-law. Would I make the same mistakes millions of mother-in-laws have made in the past? My sane-self shouts NOOOO!! I won’t be cause I am more self-aware, smarter, kinder, confident blah,blah,blah.
Well, just in case I lose my sanity and have a mid-life crisis by the time I have a daughter-in-law, here are top five mother-in-law mistakes that I should at least try to avoid making!!
Unsolicited Parenting Advice:
This is one thing that I know have annoyed daughter-in-laws for centuries — the parenting advice that you didn’t ask for. Unsolicited parenting advice from your mother-in-law can and will mostly likely be taken as criticism on how you have decided to raise your children. Solution: keep all parenting advice to yourself unless your daughter-in-law requests your input on a matter.
More than likely you’ve seen or heard about Bruce Jenner’s debut as a “woman” on the cover of Vanity Fair. The 65 year old former track and field star earned a gold medal in the 1976 Olympics, became the second athlete to grace the Wheaties cereal box, and fathered 6 children from 3 marriages.
Now, Bruce Jenner gets to live out his fantasy of being a woman. Soon Jenner will get to join a roughly estimated 700,000 Americans who have been assigned with a new gender. In the state of California, Jenner will be able to legally go from male to female on his driver’s license, birth certificate and other legal documents. Even his Wikipedia page has been carefully edited with the appropriate gender-specific pronouns. As a matter of fact, try searching for Bruce Jenner and Google will correct you with results showing “Caitlyn” (the correct name that Bruce will go by from now on).
Seemingly, our main stream media, his loved ones, doctors and so many impartial Americans have joined forces to make this man’s dream become a reality. During his cover story interview, Jenner revealed that he’s really looking forward to more girls’ nights.
“You can talk about outfits. You can talk about hair and makeup, anything you want. It becomes not a big deal,” Jenner told Vanity Fair.
I’m from the island of Jamaica and like every Jamaican, I believe it’s the best place on earth (especially when it comes to vacations). I rarely venture out to any other island; mostly because of favoritism and love for my homeland. However, all of that changed during my recent visit to St. Lucia.
In case you’re not familiar with St. Lucia, it’s located in the eastern Caribbean just north of Barbados. With a relatively small population of 174,000, this tropical gem has a variety of quiet beaches and fishing villages as well as luxurious resorts.
I had the pleasure of staying at the Sandals Halcyon Beach Resort and Spa and must say it was the perfect choice for me. It was pure luxury from the exterior to interior. While Sandals boasts three all-inclusive resorts on the Island of St. Lucia, this resort is nestled in the midst of a tropical rainforest. Surrounded by mountains alongside a turquoise sea, it’s an intimate sanctuary which resonates the true meaning of the name Halcyon; which means calm, tranquil and peaceful. I needed to be pampered and this was it! The resort has been touted as “the Garden of Eden” with good reason! Its tropical gardens and inviting beaches had me in a trance.