We all know what going “raw dog” means from sexual escapades on TV– to artists rapping about “Oh baby I like it raw”. There are varying opinions on when to do away with condoms?. The thought of not using protection creates such strong opinions from people in serious relationships as well as those who are just “dating”. One thing is for sure, everyone has an opinion about when to scrap the thin layer of material that separates you from your partner. I often find that once you skip the glove, you almost never go back. We can all agree that it feels sooo good when you are flesh to flesh with someone–it definitely increases your sense of intimacy but ultimately–is it a good idea?
Of course, there is the potential unwarranted pregnancy, but what about the increased rate of HIV/AIDS among the sexually-active? Also with herpes on a rise and 1 in 4 people affected, why are so many of us still choosing the pill over the condom? I personally am afraid of what’s out there and as a single woman in the dating scene, the notion of having “relations” with someone new causes great concern. Sex has become a plan of action instead of spontaneous combustion. Conversations about one’s status has become as normal as ordering a Big Mac from McDonalds.
With such alarming stats, why do some of us give in to the moment and dismiss the use of Trojans? Or continuously have sex with such careless abandon, they are willing to sacrifice their life for a quick nut? We all use our relationship status as a reason to have unprotected sex, while others exclaim it’s irresponsible to disregard protection if you’re not married.
I’m impartial. Yes I have asked to see “the papers” but in the end, I will most likely not wait for marriage but until I am in a monogamous relationship to do away with the glove. Why? Because I’m realistic and human. I know that there will come a time when we will blame our departure on the finished pack of magnums (I hope!) and our laziness to make a quick run to the corner store or we become so wrapped up in the moment that we are unable to reach over and grab one from the side table. However, in the end, it’s all excuses and amounts to one reason–it just feels better.
How many have waited until marriage to eliminate condoms? Who keeps it constantly wrapped even in a committed, trusting relationship? What do you all think of the not using condoms in the early stages of a relationship?