So many of us complain about wanting a better or healthier relationship with our spouse or partner. But, how many of us actually work towards it as we would a fitness, weight loss or even financial goal?
Having a strong and positive relationship takes work, and it won’t happen with a few quick fixes. Personally, that piece of information was a bit daunting at first, as my relationship mantra was always: “If you are good together, then you don’t need to “work” on anything.”
Over the years, I’ve come to accept that a healthy relationship requires consistency. Of course, what makes for a healthy relationship differs from couple to couple. However, there are some key habits that, if put into practice, can help to create and maintain a loving and lasting relationship.
Communication is key. It is one of the most important qualities in keeping a healthy relationship. However, not everyone knows how to effectively communicate.
According to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, “The reality is as long as we live we have to keep growing. If couples just settle into whatever stage of communication they have reached; they can be roommates for the next 20 years.”
In order to move forward and grow as a couple you need to be able to truly talk about your feelings and situations, the good, the bad and the indifferent. This will make for a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship.
2. Quality Time
There is a major difference between hanging out around the house together on the weekends versus having dinner together at a table and talking about how your week went. It is crucial to make sure you two are still engaging and spending quality time together.
With the daily demands on our lives, we usually rush through our activities forgetting to show our appreciation to our partners. We think it, but we don’t show it. It’s fairly easy to show your appreciation with words, acts of kindness, cards, flowers, text messages to name a few.
Lots of it!! SEX!! To stay connected with your partner sex plays an integral part, don’t put it on the back burner. Sex is important in cultivating a flourishing relationship. Sex is simple. The more you have it the more you want it.
5. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
There are arguments to be had in every relationship. It’s crucial to bring issues to the forefront and work on them. However, leaving the milk out on the counter (me guilty) is not worth having an argument over. Pick and choose your battles wisely because people in a healthy and strong relationship do.