The other day I was at a party and met some guy. Now don’t be fooled, a woman can tell if she is interested after the first five minutes once the physical attraction has worn off. As for myself, I know if you will get a date or if I have placed you in the “not interested” box. However, every once in a while, you have that person who you once dated that is now “just friends.” Last week while out and about, I met up with someone I use to date and sometimes we will go out together because we have such a good time. Make no mistake, in the beginning, I was very attracted to him but over time and conversations of getting-to-know- you, things changed. So imagine my surprise when a brief pang of sexual tension drifted my way, while sipping on a cocktail. However, as easily as it came it went.
I never understood why we never got horizontal or why we still talk since we often get on each others nerves. He knows and tolerates all my “crazy” but still manages to call me the next day. When I “flip-out” on him, he takes it in Leo stride. Regardless, there is one thing I do know, I can be myself around him—the good and the bad–he gets it all. I am not arrogant enough to believe that I’m the “ish” or that he just want to “get some” but one thing is clear we share a lot of fun times. My friend once said “I thought you guys weren’t dating anymore” and honestly, we’re not but the more I think about it, the more I realize we hang out like we are dating. I’ve met his friends and he mine, we party together, share the same love for adventure, and even planned to go away together but without the “S” word hanging over us or at least me. We have fun together and that’s all there is to it.
How many of you have a relationship like this? Do you have a label for it? How do you feel about the person?